Flirting - the Girlabout guide

You've seen HIM. He's seen you. And now it's time to reel that cute boy in. But how do you go about making him fall for you without falling flat on your face? Flirting. It's the essential language of attraction but it's a tricky one to get right. We've put together a few tips to get you started and on your way.

• Be yourself. That's our first tip and it's the most important one. Don't be tempted to put on fake accents, change your personality or make up stories about yourself. If it works, you'll have to keep it up or have the excruciating task of having to tell him you lied to him… and that's never good in a relationship

• Be genuine. If you're not interested in him then don't pretend you are. If you treat other people like you'd like them to treat you, you can't go far wrong, and no-one likes to be made a fool of; which is what he'll think you've done if he's being genuine with you and you're just messing with him

• Show an interest. People like to feel like you're interested in them and what they do. Someone once said that you should treat whoever you are with at that moment like they are the most important person in the world to you, and we reckon you can't go far wrong with that. We don't mean declare your undying love or turn all psycho and stalkerish on them; just give them your undivided attention, laugh at their jokes, remember the names they mention and don't gaze over their shoulder into the distance!

• Be happy! Sounds obvious but if you're looking miserable he won't be thinking "I'd like to go out with her", he'll be looking for the nearest exit! Smile, laugh, make eye contact and don't leave it all up to him. If you're interested, show you're interested…. Men are only human too and they get nervous and insecure like the rest of us.

• Be confident! Use your body language well. Don't be too "in his face" but don't shrink away either. Make lots of eye contact. Psychologists tell us that the occasional "hand laid on arm" or other non-threatening touch works wonders too. Be aware of your charms and use them, don't overplay them.

• We say dress confident, comfortable, sexy but not slutty. Keeping it in your own natural style will mean you are less self-conscious; leaving your attentions free for the object of your affection!

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